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Never Been Kissed? Need relationship advice?, Love 101: The art of kissing, dating & friendship; Part 4
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post May 4 2008, 09:17 AM
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The previous thread which can be found here has gotten very long, so it's time to start a new thread to continue the discussion.
Please feel free to refer to or quote from Part 3.

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post May 6 2008, 08:28 PM
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QUOTE(weasleygirl93 @ May 3 2008, 07:31 PM) *
QUOTE(eowyngirl @ May 3 2008, 12:10 PM) *
Since it's been a few days, I was wondering if you've gotten a chance to let him know through your friend what's going on. Sorry if I'm being nosy--you certainly don't have to tell me if you don't want to--but I was just wondering.


Oh don't worry, I certainly don't mind telling you. So my friend told me that my invisi-boyfriend and my friends little brother were hanging out and my friend was with them. Invisi-boyfriend asked to play with my friends phone and she was just like whatever. And I guess thats how he saw my picture and got my number. And then the phone calls happened. So at dancing, I asked her to break up with him for me. So she called him during our break and just ended it and he sounded kinda confused, but the 'relationship' is over now and I'm just sitting here cracking up and shaking my head. This whole thing was just weird.


Invisi-boyfriend...I like it. tongue.gif It certainly does sound weird....I wonder if the guy actually thought you would go out with him. That is possibly the strangest bf/gf situation I have ever heard...At least it's over. smile.gif


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post May 10 2008, 11:38 AM
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Thank god summer's coming, cause I don't think I could take these boy issues much longer.

Alright, so I am thinking that my first issue sounds so stupid, but it still bugs me. So my boyfriend for 5 months broke up with me because he parents sopposedly thought we were 'too far along in the relationship'. No idea what that means but I did finally get to that he just didnt want to go out anymore. So I ended up getting upset for a bit and then got to the point where I was jsut like 'he's a jerk' and I got over it. But then yesturday I saw him with another girl and I don't know what came over me, but I jsut got annoyed/upset whatever you want to call it. I don't know why exactly I let it bug me, he was a complete jerk, but it did. Is that normal?

Okay, on to the next problem. I play on the tennis team and the girls and the boys practice together. There is this one boy on the team that I always hit with before practice and we always hit together after the matches. We also have a class together during the day, so we kinda talk in ther and stuff. Now the major problem is that I know that there is at least 1 other guy on the team that has figured it out (he actaully tryed to tell the boy that I like, without just coming out and saying it directly) but the boy I like is just clueless, or he knows and is not telling me or something. So now I'm kind of stuck on what to do. I am tempted to call and ask if he wrote down the homework because I 'forgot' to. But I don't know if that's such a good idea. Help.
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post May 11 2008, 04:49 PM
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QUOTE(SinglesTennisGirl @ May 10 2008, 11:38 AM) *
Thank god summer's coming, cause I don't think I could take these boy issues much longer.

Alright, so I am thinking that my first issue sounds so stupid, but it still bugs me. So my boyfriend for 5 months broke up with me because he parents sopposedly thought we were 'too far along in the relationship'. No idea what that means but I did finally get to that he just didnt want to go out anymore. So I ended up getting upset for a bit and then got to the point where I was jsut like 'he's a jerk' and I got over it. But then yesturday I saw him with another girl and I don't know what came over me, but I jsut got annoyed/upset whatever you want to call it. I don't know why exactly I let it bug me, he was a complete jerk, but it did. Is that normal?

Okay, on to the next problem. I play on the tennis team and the girls and the boys practice together. There is this one boy on the team that I always hit with before practice and we always hit together after the matches. We also have a class together during the day, so we kinda talk in ther and stuff. Now the major problem is that I know that there is at least 1 other guy on the team that has figured it out (he actaully tryed to tell the boy that I like, without just coming out and saying it directly) but the boy I like is just clueless, or he knows and is not telling me or something. So now I'm kind of stuck on what to do. I am tempted to call and ask if he wrote down the homework because I 'forgot' to. But I don't know if that's such a good idea. Help.


As to your first problem, I think that's perfectly normal...you were attracted to him at one point, and to see him with another girl would be upsetting, even if you aren't attracted to the guy anymore.

Welllllll....I wouldn't ask him for the homework unless you actually need it...but if he's better at some subject than you, you could try asking him to help you study. If he backs out, either he's not attracted, he's shy, or he knows and he's not interested. Or you could try telling him outright how you feel, but I've never been that brave. biggrin.gif Hope this helps!


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post May 11 2008, 08:25 PM
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QUOTE(eowyngirl @ May 11 2008, 05:49 PM) *
QUOTE(SinglesTennisGirl @ May 10 2008, 11:38 AM) *
Thank god summer's coming, cause I don't think I could take these boy issues much longer.

Alright, so I am thinking that my first issue sounds so stupid, but it still bugs me. So my boyfriend for 5 months broke up with me because he parents sopposedly thought we were 'too far along in the relationship'. No idea what that means but I did finally get to that he just didnt want to go out anymore. So I ended up getting upset for a bit and then got to the point where I was jsut like 'he's a jerk' and I got over it. But then yesturday I saw him with another girl and I don't know what came over me, but I jsut got annoyed/upset whatever you want to call it. I don't know why exactly I let it bug me, he was a complete jerk, but it did. Is that normal?

Okay, on to the next problem. I play on the tennis team and the girls and the boys practice together. There is this one boy on the team that I always hit with before practice and we always hit together after the matches. We also have a class together during the day, so we kinda talk in ther and stuff. Now the major problem is that I know that there is at least 1 other guy on the team that has figured it out (he actaully tryed to tell the boy that I like, without just coming out and saying it directly) but the boy I like is just clueless, or he knows and is not telling me or something. So now I'm kind of stuck on what to do. I am tempted to call and ask if he wrote down the homework because I 'forgot' to. But I don't know if that's such a good idea. Help.


As to your first problem, I think that's perfectly normal...you were attracted to him at one point, and to see him with another girl would be upsetting, even if you aren't attracted to the guy anymore.

Welllllll....I wouldn't ask him for the homework unless you actually need it...but if he's better at some subject than you, you could try asking him to help you study. If he backs out, either he's not attracted, he's shy, or he knows and he's not interested. Or you could try telling him outright how you feel, but I've never been that brave. biggrin.gif Hope this helps!


Thanks bunches! That's helps a lot. My best friend has been cheering me up too, and I got to play tennis for the first time in days (darn rain). So that's helped get my mind off of it and kinda relize... who needs boy? The get in the way of all of your plans and sports and stuff. So yeah, I'm feeling mucho bette, but there are still some downs and crap like that... that's when my best friend has full permission to just smack me.

ANd yeah, I'm gonna ask him if he wants to work with me while we're working on our papers so that we don't go insane not being able to talk or anything, plus he could hold my index cards in his box for me biggrin.gif . I may ask him if he wants to hit outside of school, but I most likly chicken out. tongue.gif
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post May 14 2008, 07:43 PM
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Okay so I started being friends with this guy like, 2 weeks ago or so. And we've been hanging out a lot of lately. All of our other friends seem to think that me and him like each other. It's totally not like that with me and I'm sure he doesn't like me that way either. But I've noticed some things about him that makes me think that he's gay. He told me one time that he doesn't date girls. That got me wondering. And today when we were all hanging out, one of our friends said that he would be good at being in a fake gay guy group. I saw on his face that he didn't seem to be comfortable bringing gay guys to the topic of the conversation... he just looked so... I don't know how to explain it. And he sort of does talk like a gay guy and stuff. I know some guys who talk like gays but really are straight. But I think my friend is gay. I want to ask him but I don't want to offend him if he's actually straight. How should I do this? conf.gif

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I have a lot of gay friends (as many gay friends as straight friends, actually) and based on what you've said, it sounds like he's not ready to come out about it yet. Also, you've only known him for two weeks, and that's a really personal question. I'd wait for him to tell you in his own time. I'm assuming/hoping that his sexual orientation won't affect your friendship and that you're simply curious. I've had a number of friends come out to me over the years, and they've always said they were comfortable doing so because they knew that I wouldn't judge them based on their orientation and that it wouldn't affect our friendship.
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post May 14 2008, 09:04 PM
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I'm only curious. There's nothing wrong at all about him being gay. I just wonder, that's all. He's hinting at it a lot to me. I don't think anyone else has noticed it. That's why I'm posting it on this thread. I didn't talk about it with any of my other friends.

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post May 14 2008, 11:00 PM
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When I was younger, mid-twenties or so, I was in a similar situation and I broached the subject by bringing up a fake conversation.

"I heard my co-worker the other day making a really ugly remark about a guy at work that is marrying his partner. I thought it was really sad that she couldn't just be happy for them and that they found eachother regardless.....etc, etc"

It seemed to help him understand that I was safe to talk to and a few weeks later, he made it clear that he was gay. End of story.


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post May 15 2008, 02:39 AM
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i think harrysjulie is right on the mark here.
if you make yourself aproachable then you will probably find out eventualy.
just dont try to force it out of him.


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